Passing on some messages, stories and other resources that I’ve been listening to…enjoy!
“The Marriage” Message (which I subtitle “What Women Want”) by Matt Carter for Acts 29 Network (a resource for church planters founded by Mark Driscoll): Male or female, my
“What Women Want” title probably caught your attention (and perhaps
reminded you of that Helen Hunt and Mel Gibson movie of the same title
which I saw bits of years ago and do not remember, other than to note
that I don’t recall it actually
being about what women want). As I listened to “The Marriage” message,
which, from what I gather, was preached to an audience of pastors and
their wives, for probably the first time I felt that this was an
articulation of what women who love Jesus (and, to some extent, women
who aren’t followers of Christ) actually want.
Whenever there's talk of what women want – including in biblical sermons about romantic
relationships– almost inevitably I end up rolling my eyes over the
practical tips given to men for giving women “what they want” because
something is usually said as an absolute that does not represent what I
actually want. My favorite example: the advice that telling a woman
she’s beautiful - and offering
other compliments – is an essential for making her feel special. I’m not
saying I don’t ever want to be told I’m beautiful or be otherwise
complimented, but offering compliments would not make a top five list of
things I need to feel valued by a man in a romantic relationship (as
I’ve blogged before, I am a "show me" rather than a "tell me" kind of
girl; I’m cool with whatever compliments when they’re anchored by
actions!).
Anyway, my mini diatribe highlights what
I think this message gets right: first, it articulates the biblical
calling of a man in marriage (and can be applied to Christ-centered
dating relationships) - but then gives practical tips for men loving
their women in the ways they accept love. Men, it hits home that showing
love to a woman is not about working around the fact that women are
“complicated” or dealing with us hailing “from Venus” while you are
“from Mars,” but about studying and understanding the particular woman
God gives you. I think that’s a
lot easier than trying to figure out what women collectively want, in
the abstract– and will certainly get you better results! And I see this
message as the closest thing to a tailored “how to love a woman” that
I’ve ever heard. Most importantly, the message reinforces that, in any
godly marriage, she must be loved as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.
Ladies, I also think it’s a good message to evaluate potential mates and, married or single, pray for men.
I won’t say any more because you just
have to hear this message! A couple of housekeeping items for when you
listen: (1) Question: Ladies, am I the only one who never read or
watched Twilight? I feel like there’s a lot of us who didn’t for various
reasons, but I get – and appreciate – where he’s going, lol. And (2)
there is a passing reference to The Drudge Report. I do not support The
Drudge Report, and note, it is a passing reference (whew!).
Anyway, I pray the message speaks to you, male or female – our world needs it! Click here to download the message, or get the podcast on iTunes: Acts 29 Network Sermons > select “Podcasts” (rather than “All”)> “The Marriage”, March 29, 2012.
Jordan & Jessica Video (click here to listen, from Essence.Com): Speaking
of love, this true story is a wonderful example of God’s power and
plans for His children. It’s about a couple, Jessica and Jordan, who
were both widowed in their 20s and how God orchestrated their love
story. In explaining their story, Jessica referenced Ephesians 3:20, which I will quote along with verse 21: “20 Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, 21 to Him be
glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and
ever. Amen.” Amen! Be encouraged by this story – and pass it on!
Do North: My pastor has been
preaching an eight-week sermon series on the seven letters to the
churches in Revelation 2 & 3 about the importance of re-focusing The
Church, The Body of Christ – on Christ. He’s done an excellent job
providing historical context for each of the churches and very relevant,
practical manifestations of both the grievances and the praise Jesus
expressed, and how it relates to the church at present. He also
addresses how the letters may apply to your personal walk with God. He
then provides ways for turning our focus northward. We just had the Week
5 message and have three weeks to go. The whole series is worth
listening to – weeks four and five especially (as I type, the Week 5
message is not up yet, but it will be soon). You can find Do North
messages here.
National Christian Writers Conference: A
few months ago I attended a Christian Writers’ conference in California
that is coming to D.C. in October! It's a great resource for writing
workshops, marketing and publishing tips. There also is a Gospel Music
Expo track that provides similar resources for artists. Currently, early
bird registration is $125, and you can register here.
Additionally, for the conference NCWC is accepting proposals for
classes and workshops on publishing books in the Christian market.
